{"id":140,"date":"2018-01-15T14:25:26","date_gmt":"2018-01-15T19:25:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/mire.zonart.co\/?p=140"},"modified":"2026-05-06T07:35:04","modified_gmt":"2026-05-06T11:35:04","slug":"attendre-quil-pose-les-questions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mireformations.com\/fr\/attendre-quil-pose-les-questions\/","title":{"rendered":"Attendre qu\u2019il pose les questions ?"},"content":{"rendered":"

J\u2019ai souvent entendu qu\u2019il \u00e9tait pr\u00e9f\u00e9rable d\u2019attendre que l\u2019enfant ou l\u2019adolescent pose les questions concernant la mort et le deuil. Sans remettre en doute les auteurs, j\u2019ai toujours \u00e9t\u00e9 convaincue que ce n\u2019\u00e9tait pas appropri\u00e9 pour tous les enfants d\u2019attendre qu\u2019ils nous questionnent.<\/h2>\n
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Mon premier deuil, je l\u2019ai v\u00e9cu \u00e0 l\u2019\u00e2ge de 3 ans. Des morts dramatiques survenues lors d\u2019un incendie. Je me souviens encore de certaines images, les cercueils et les pierres tombales. J\u2019ai ensuite v\u00e9cu un deuil significatif \u00e0 l\u2019\u00e2ge de 13 ans.<\/p>\n

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Je n\u2019ai jamais pos\u00e9 de questions \u00e0 personne, mais je vivais une temp\u00eate d\u2019\u00e9motions tr\u00e8s changeantes. Je n\u2019ai jamais montr\u00e9 que ce d\u00e9c\u00e8s m\u2019affectait. \u00c9tais-je si diff\u00e9rente des autres pour ne pas en parler, j\u2019\u00e9tais pourtant entour\u00e9e d\u2019une famille tr\u00e8s unie ? Eh bien non, le pr\u00e9adolescent ne parlera g\u00e9n\u00e9ralement pas de cette d\u00e9tresse ni des peurs qu\u2019il a concernant la mort. Et l\u2019enfant n\u2019expliquera pas au parent le deuil qu\u2019il vit.<\/p>\n

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Parler de la mort au quotidien<\/h3>\n
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Il y a plus de 269 000 d\u00e9c\u00e8s par an au Canada. Au Qu\u00e9bec, c\u2019est plus de 180 d\u00e9c\u00e8s par jour. De ces d\u00e9c\u00e8s dans la province de Qu\u00e9bec, 9 personnes sont \u00e2g\u00e9es de moins de 49 ans, dont 2 enfants de moins de 10 ans.<\/p>\n

Si vous connaissez un jeune qui vit ou a v\u00e9cu un deuil, c\u2019est aussi votre devoir de contribuer \u00e0 l\u2019accompagnement. Le proverbe d\u2019origine africaine dit : \u00ab \u00c7a prend tout un village pour \u00e9lever un enfant \u00bb. Concernant le deuil, dans notre culture nord-am\u00e9ricaine, on pourrait appliquer le principe suivant : \u00e7a prend une famille, une communaut\u00e9, une soci\u00e9t\u00e9 pour accompagner une jeune vivant un deuil et pour briser le tabou entourant la mort.<\/p>\n

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Comment en parler ?<\/h3>\n
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L\u2019\u00e2ge de l\u2019enfant est important, notre langage doit \u00eatre adapt\u00e9 bien s\u00fbr, mais ces 5 concepts doivent \u00eatre expliqu\u00e9s.<\/p>\n

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  1. La mort est irr\u00e9versible (il est mort pour toujours et ne reviendra jamais)<\/li>\n
  2. C\u2019est une fin absolue (arr\u00eat du fonctionnement du corps, des fonctions vitales)<\/li>\n
  3. Il y a une cause physique (et non provoqu\u00e9e par chicane ou pens\u00e9es)<\/li>\n
  4. Elle est in\u00e9vitable pour tous les \u00eatres vivants<\/li>\n
  5. Elle appartient \u00e0 un cycle biologique (ce ne sont pas que les m\u00e9chants ou les plus faibles qui meurent)<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Le deuil nous apprend que la mort existe, qu\u2019elle fait partie de la vie, qu\u2019elle peut survenir \u00e0 tout instant. C\u2019est une dure r\u00e9alit\u00e9 qui laisse une marque invisible. La vie de l\u2019enfant ou de l\u2019adulte qui vivent la mort d\u2019une personne aim\u00e9e ne sera plus comme avant. Cependant, la vie peut continuer \u00e0 \u00eatre belle.<\/p>\n

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    Mireille Guillemette inf.B.\u00e9d. et pr\u00e9sidente de Mire Formation Conseil inc.<\/p>\n

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    Ressources et publications
    \n<\/strong>Deuil jeunesse : http:\/\/www.deuil-jeunesse.com\/accueil<\/a><\/p>\n

    http:\/\/www.coupdepouce.com\/mamans\/6-12-ans\/article\/comment-parler-de-la-mort-avec-son-enfant<\/a>
    \nUn excellent texte de Jos\u00e9e Masson :     https:\/\/rubanrose.org\/renseignements-pratiques\/diagnostic-enfants<\/a>
    \nLivre : Mort, mais pas dans mon coeur, Jos\u00e9e Masson, \u00e9d.Logiques, 2010.<\/p>\n

    Pour commander :\u00a0adpcommandes@messageries-adp.com<\/a> ou en version \u00e9lectronique sur archambault.ca<\/a> .<\/p>\n

    Vid\u00e9o : Comment parler de la mort aux enfants https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=TCs2b_ZdKBs<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    J\u2019ai souvent entendu qu\u2019il \u00e9tait pr\u00e9f\u00e9rable d\u2019attendre que l\u2019enfant ou l\u2019adolescent pose les questions concernant la mort et le deuil. Sans remettre en doute les auteurs, j\u2019ai toujours \u00e9t\u00e9 convaincue que ce n\u2019\u00e9tait pas appropri\u00e9 pour tous les enfants d\u2019attendre qu\u2019ils nous questionnent. Mon premier deuil, je l\u2019ai v\u00e9cu \u00e0 l\u2019\u00e2ge de 3 ans. 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